Seduction has been an art since
the times of Bathsheba, Helen of Troy, Hsi Shi, and of course, Cleopatra. These
women learned the power of seduction and used it to gain the power that they
desired. It started out as a way for women to gain power in a male dominated
world. In time, men began to realize this power, and certain men, the Duke de
Lauzun, the Spaniards who inspired the Don Juan legend, Casanova, Ninon de
l’Enclos, were the first to learn to use these techniques as a way to overcome
young women, and get them into bed (Greene, 2001).
As I
watched the South Korean television drama “The Moon Embracing the Sun” on
Netflix, the Crown Princess’s father says to her “Don’t you know how to seduce
your husband?”. They had never consummated
their marriage because he despised her. Their marriage was one of a political
alliance, but they needed an heir, and he just couldn’t bring himself to
consummate it. That made me think about the power of Seduction.
“We all have the power of attraction—the
ability to draw people in and hold them in our thrall. Far from all of us, though, are aware of this
inner potential, and we imagine attractiveness instead as a near—mystical trait that a select few are
born with and the rest will never command. Yet all we need to do to realize our potential is
understand what it is in a person’s character that naturally excites people and develop these latent qualities within
us.”~The Art of Seduction
When
the excitement in the bedroom goes south, do we just let it dwindle as a normal
part of being in a long term relationship? Or do we realize the importance of
intimacy as a part of our union, our needs, and our happiness. Even if you
think that it’s no big deal, once you get back into the swing of things, you
will realize that it IS a big deal. When you get that click in your head that
lets you know “I need to do something to add some passion back into our
relationship”, it’s time for a night of Seduction.
These are some things that you can do whenever the passion gets stale. Learn to
Seduce your man, as a means of
keeping the “irons in the fire”.
There
are many things that you can do to spice up things in the bedroom:
1. So why
not start with sexy little text messages
throughout the day. Plan your day and night ahead of time, and give him little
tidbits of the details of your evening together. Or if you know that he likes
dirty talk, then send him an arousing text that will catch him off guard. He
will be pleasantly distracted all day, and this will create anticipation.
2. Whether
you decide to go out to eat, or make his favorite meal, make sure that you dress in sexy attire that will
certainly get his attention. It is sexy to wear something to flatter your
figure, and it’s more seductive to cover-up. A little cleavage won’t hurt
though. You can save scantily clad for the bedroom. Red is always an eye-catcher. (Just a
suggestion). And heels are very sexually appealing, at a restaurant, in the
house, or in the bedroom.
3. If you
go out to eat, sit next to each other, and do a lot of touching and kissing.
Having a drink or two can lighten the mood and make you both a little frisky.
Flirt with him in your SEXY voice (which
is a low, soft, pleasant tone), and make sure that there’s a lot of eye
contact. Putting certain foods in your
mouth slowly while maintaining eye contact, can be very seductive.
4. Going
out dancing can be very sensual,
especially Latin dancing. If you need to get lessons, try to get them together.
This will be an investment in your relationship. You can also put some nice slow music on in
the bedroom, and “slow drag” to the music.
5. Taking
a shower together is a great way to
get each other in the mood. You might not make it out of the shower before your
day/night of Seduction pays off, but
try to refrain, and help wash each other’s backs. Then again, that can be your
starting point. It’s a nice change to have sex outside of the bedroom.
6. If you
decide to shower alone, make sure that you enter the bedroom in a new sexy
nighty, or a pretty bra and panty set. You don’t always have to wear a
nightgown. You may be tempted to just come out nude, which is fine, but there’s
something sexy about having something on, and letting him take it off of you.
There is also the visual that you create while in sexy lingerie, that becomes mental food for the memory banks.
7. Giving
your man a massage is almost always
a way to get him aroused. Even if he gives you a massage, it can have the same
effect. There are plenty of nicely scented massage oils that you can use, or
you can just use some lotion. Getting a book on massage techniques can be very
beneficial to you both.
8. Giving
your man a footbath and footmassage, and or a hand massage can also cause
arousal. Getting that massage book can help you with the best techniques to
give a pleasurable foot or hand massage.
9. For
some, role playing is a great way to
Seduce. Pretending to be someone
else might even help you with some inhibitions. You can create an alter ego, to
do things that you would NEVER do as yourself. Buying different wigs can also
help with role playing. I don’t think that he will mind a bit.
10. Here’s a link to some techniques that will keep things fun and exciting:
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/g2028/ways-to-touch-his-penis/
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/g2028/ways-to-touch-his-penis/
Hope
that you enjoy it! ;-)
“Seduction is a game of psychology, not beauty,
and it is within the grasp of any person to become a master at the game” (Greene,
2001).
References
Greene,
R. (2001). The art of seduction. New
York, NY: Penguin Books.
Jones, L. (2012). 50 sexy ways to touch him there. Cosmopolitan.com
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/g2028/ways-to-touch-his-penis/
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/g2028/ways-to-touch-his-penis/
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